Choo choo


Meant to post this the other day...

A locomotive goes 🎶choo choo🎶 and I’ve often thought of myself like a train. My way of choo-choo’ing is by remaining positive and by taking the wins when they come. However there are many railway tracks to travel and sometimes a derailment happens. I feel derailed right now.

I’m so darn angry and with that comes sadness.  If I’m being completely honest with myself and with you I’m an emotional wreck. I feel like I’ve been hit by a train, like my caboose stayed at one station while the rest of my train at another.  As a little girl I heard the tale about the “train that could” he just kept trying and eventually did. But for crying out loud I’m so sick of trying. If I was to draw myself as a cartoon train I’d be the long eyelash lipstick wearing train with tears in her big brown eyes. I just can’t stop crying tonight.

I’ve had f-ing cancer twice. It’s made me infertille. I have a colostomy. I’ve had parts rebuilt. I have hernias. I’m not ok. Throughout all my treatments I’ve lost a minimal amount of weight, I didn’t even get a revenge body FFS!  A breast cancer survivor qualifies for reconstruction so why the heck can’t I qualify for, or shall I say be approved for, a goddam tummy tuck. No I was not a skinny mini before this all started however my hernias have really done a number on me. I’m so goddam mad that my body has been through so much that I’m scared I’m now falling in to a depression. I’ve never felt so down. As much as I’m an advocate and the joy it brings me in doing so, it’s just not enough. Perhaps I’m just feeling things a bit more than usual tonight as yesterday marked 9 months since surgery, I honestly don’t know.

I want oh so much to be the survivor who does amazing things but any time I start to feel that way I feel like I’m getting slapped in the face over & over again. I sit here and think what can I do to resolve this but it’s just not that easy.  I’m in constant discomfort and pain and just can’t seem to unlock the path to help me be that survivor. I hate life after cancer, it’s so much harder than life during cancer which is crazy to say. I’m at the point that I feel I need strict rules and regulations to see any sort of solution because without them I just don’t know how I’ll overcome this hurdle.

For 4 years I’ve been trying my best to be positive and to look on the bright side, but if I had a towel right now I’d toss it in the ring. I won’t give up because it’s not in my DNA, however I understand struggle like never before. Every single one of us has a limit...seems I’ve just hit mine. I’m done being strong so maybe it’s time to be angry and vengeful...I really don’t know but I got to figure this out.

People are worse off...this too shall pass...others have been through worse, all things I tell myself when I’m in a dark spot. As much as it has helped in the past it just isn’t this time.  I’ve been through extreme agony and it’s ok to acknowledge it. I begged for mercy after chemo & radiation. I’m sick of begging for mercy which is where I find myself physically today. It’s now affecting my psyche which hasn’t really happened before.

I’m left with this thought. Trains can be repaired after derailment right?  So how can I get myself repaired physically and emotionally because goddam I hate this space I’m in.  In saying all this I know I’m strong, that I’m a fighter and that I’ll conduct my train in killer cute overalls with a bold red lip. Just sucks I’ve had so many accidents along the way.  Choo-frickin-hoo.









Regina, Olga sent you a hug.
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Hi Sweetheart. Those GD hernias are really bringing you down, along with everything else. As much as everyone claims to love this holiday season, the truth is that it can go either way. It usually goes downward because it tends to magnify existing negative situations. Television, magazines, the 'net....all of them portray everyone as having the time of their lives and the truth is, about half of the Christian population will settle for "let's just get through this". The true meaning is the celebration of Jesus anyway. This said, I'm not implying that you feel this way because the holidays are upon us, but it sure isn't helping any. You have every right to be disgusted and angry. You're a beautiful young woman whose outward looks are surpassed only by your personality, which I think is near perfect. Have you had any word on the hernia surgery? And yeah, equal rights for ALL cancers and not just Breast (sorry Brca survivors, I mean no disrespect).
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Seeing my GP today in hopes to get some pressure on hernia referral repair. Been keeping busy these last few days with birthdays of family & friends which is good for the psyche but now my body aches lol. But gotta keep on trucking along right? Thanks for your amazing comment means a lot.
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Oh Carly, it makes me so sad that you are having such a rough time of it. You have every right to be angry, to kick whatever is near you. Anger is an essential part of grief, and you have grief over what cancer has done to you and your body. You may have to just feel it, until it doesn't hurt so much. I'm glad you can vent to us, we understand completely and love you unconditionally.
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I kept very busy this weekend & will be again today so that’s helping a lot. Seeing my GP today to hopefully out some pressure on hernia repair. Thank you for the support!
I am so sorry you are having such trouble with pain. It is the unseen enemy of joy and happiness as it redirects your thoughts in ways nothing else does. You have a warrior spirit and I know you will get the help you need. My heart goes out to you during this fight.
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TY so much! See my GP today for my hernias and also have a therapy session at cancer agency which should help me vent! Thanks for the kind words & support.
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Vital Info


September 23, 2015

Vancouver, Canada

August 16, 1975

Cancer Info

Vulva Cancer

Vulva Cancer

July 4, 2014

Stage 3

3.1 - 4.0 cm


Change in my body

I'm stronger than I thought I was

Hyperbaric Oxygen treatment to help heal wound

BC Cancer Agency

February 16

Pain in vaginal area

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